Tuesday, November 6, 2012

The Prairies, Philanthropy and Potter: 5 favourite moments from Brett Wilson's new book

Me having tea with Brett Wilson

*disclaimer* This is in no way, shape or form a paid blog. I hate doing reviews or anything similar but this is a book I won through Mr. Wilson's website (dammit now I sound like Dennis the Menace). Anyway, take it for what it is, I enjoyed it, my eyes glazed over certain parts merely because I'm not a business person, but I took a lot away from this. And this is what I learned...

I love Brett Wilson for more than his super sexy swagger and charm that caught my *GIGGETY* when he was on the Dragons' Den; I love him (and I use love in that non-stalkerish way a fan can love a pseudo-celeb from afar and not be handed a restraining order), for his honesty and ability to tell his story without coming across as perfect.

In fact, in his new book Redefining Success, Still Making Mistakes, the uber-debonaire millionaire openly shares his imperfections and mistakes in a collection of stories and testimonials that have shaped his life to this point.

He is surprisingly gracious about his ex wife, Pamela, crediting her with raising their children to be humble, have down-to-earth morals and values, and even says that some of the hires she found for their companies are still with him to this day.

The stories I was most interested in were the personal tidbits he shares like how his grandmother passed away an hour before his mom lost her battle with lung cancer on July 11, 1987 in the Battlefords Union Hospital in North Battleford, SK.

In 2003, he made a $160,000 donation to the hospital for new X-Ray machines and when he called the following year to see what the hospital needed, the CEO asked, "How much do you have to give?"

"I'm not sure. Come back to me with your ask."

His response impressed Brett. He sent an itemized grocery list of needs corresponding with dollar amounts. "If you give us $5,000 this is how we'll spend it, if you give us $10,000 this is how we'll spend it..." all the way up to the million-dollar mark.

"I was impressed that he showed the same attention to detail at the $5,000  level as for the $1-million level."
Brett decided to donate $300,000 towards the $600,000 cost of new anesthesiology machines and requested that the hospital match his donation by raising $300,000 themselves.
"I didn't know it, but until then, the most the hospital had raised during one campaign was $100,000.  
The hospital conditionally accepted my plan, but wanted twelve months to raise the money. I thought for a few minutes and gave them three months. I can only imagine the nervous conversations that took place at BUH that day, but they called back the next morning and agreed to the three-month challenge, and the Dollar-for-Dollar campaign was on. It ultimately took less than three months for the Battlefords to meet - and exceed - the BUH's fundraising goal.  
They called me with the results: "Brett, we have met your challenge. In fact we blew through it, and have raised $500,000." 
Sometimes, the best way to encourage someone is by challenging them to do more than they think they can do. I am proud of this initiative because of the impact it had on the community in terms of dollars raised, for  sure, but more especially in terms of the community engagement it inspired. 
Now, my top 5 favourite moments in Brett's new book 

5: Brett admits he used to think of watching his kids as "babysitting"
It's not something he is proud of, mind you, but he did think it and called it an "unwanted chore." He shares a story of reluctantly watching his kids when he really wanted to be at an art auction to bid on a piece he couldn't imagine living without (although he can't remember what it was now). He had arranged for a designate to call him when the bidding began so that he could still participate while he sulked in his office. Although the phone rang multiple times, his kids answered and he never received a call. Eventually he phoned the auctioneer's assistant who told Brett a little girl kept answering the phone, telling the assistant that he wasn't home. Brett was furious, writing that he didn't recall ever being so angry, and demanded to know why she said that to the woman who called. His daughter hid under her bed, hiding from Brett's angry outbursts and only whispered, "Because you never are home." It was a defining moment for Brett who realized he had very strained relationships with his kids.

4. Quoting Harry Potter
See, this is what I love about Brett, too; he finds inspiration in the most unlikely places.
"Men are not known by their abilities, but rather by their choices." Dumbledore, Harry Potter & the Chamber of Secrets
I've come to realize that happiness is a choice. Leaving the world a better place is a choice. As my mom used to say at dinnertime, "You have two menu choices tonight-you can take it or leave it." We may have no control over what cards we are dealt, but we do get to choose how we play the hand.
'Scuse my language, Mr. Wilson, but pure, fucking genius! And totally FIERCE! 

3. Know-it-alls, don't really.
Brett prefers to work with people who say, "Let me check and get back to you," as opposed to pulling a bullshit answer outta their ass. *cough* sorry Brett, I'm paraphrasing here. I love this because trying to impress someone making something up comes across as *cough* bullshit and I get that Brett doesn't appreciate that.
"It's a simple statement that only enhances credibility. It's easy to see when people are making up an answer on the spot. If they had only admitted that they hadn't yet done enough research in a particular area, or hadn't thought of the issue, they might actually walk away with investors who are competent business partners, and who could help them expand their market."

2. R-E-S-P-E-C-T
"I am wary of people who get pleasure from attacking or insulting others. When someone treats others with a lack of respect, to me it says very little about the person they attack, but volumes about their own integrity and insecurity."   
'Nuff said.

1. The key to success
Well, he doesn't have a magical key and it's not a new concept but coming from Brett Wilson, it makes it a reminder to surround yourself with people who matter, and to always BOUNCE!
"Everyone faces hardship, disappointment and failure from time to time. But to succeed, you have to make a commitment to never give up. You might find that your greatest hardships lead to your greatest triumphs. And maybe, most important of all, don't hesitate or be afraid to share your issues or concerns with those close to you. I have always loved the line from Dr. Seuss: "Those who matter don't mind, those that mind don't matter." The reality is that your true friends (including those that are family) will always be there for you. Find them.

Brett's book is now available and his book tour starts today. You can follow him on Twitter, Facebook, or check out his crazy awesome website for more details.

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Thursday, November 1, 2012

A "Be FIERCE" Challenge

Photo from SPLASH, Chicago's dose of STYLE, SOCIETY & CELEBRITY

It's been a week of really toxic energy in the air, have you noticed it? Lots of negativity, lack of patience, tolerance and all-around crap?

I blame the full moon that just passed, it tends to screw with people who are sensitive to those types of energies however now that it feels like this weight of hate, anger and drama has been lifted, I feel like it's time to push forward with being FIERCE.

Of course, during those times when it's so fucking negative is the BEST  time to practice being FIERCE, and quite honestly my daily FIERCE affirmations is the only thing that kept me from losing my shit online.

Today I came across a perfectly-timed article from the extremely articulate and insightful Jenny McCarthy, who you may know as one of Playboy's most successful Centrefolds. Yup, she bared it all and owns her liberation and empowered views on sexuality BUT I have watched her grow from sexy centrefold to inspirational mama over the years. Regardless of what you think of her or her past, this woman is uber-FIERCE!

In 20 years in the public eye, I have grown some pretty thick skin. Not much can penetrate anymore — but it used to. I would read comments and get sick to my stomach. I would be scared for my life because of the threats I would get. So I decided to do some spiritual soul searching to learn how to deal with a negative vortex that I know will never stop, and funnily enough, the search led to my own spiritual evolution. 
I learned about something called “projected identification.” This is the medical term that shrinks use to explain why people say mean things. According to this theory, when you feel bad about yourself and you don’t know what to do with it, you project it on to other people so you’re able to see it. I’m sure you’ve heard some guru say, “Everyone in your life is your mirror.” This is one of the best laws of the universe. When you say something negative, you are talking about yourself. When you say something positive, you are talking about yourself. Whatever emotions you’re experiencing in your own life, that’s exactly how you view the world. Love yourself and you love what you see. Hate yourself and you hate what you see.
I love this!

I love it so much that I am issuing a challenge to everyone who has ever thought a mean thing about someone, judged them, spewed hateful venom attacks on someone's personality or the way they live their lives, or just thought a snarky thought about someone.

We have all done it. We have ALL said things about someone else to our friends, gossiped, been hateful, judged, and chosen to see the worst in people.

Today, I want you to look at someone you really despise and find SOMETHING GOOD to say about them. Do it online. Do it only in your head. Just DO IT.

**Or, for those of you who are concerned about getting a compliment today** Find someone you don't even know and look for something nice to say about them. Look to someone you admire, say something POSITIVE.

The challenge is to see the best in someone you don't really like. 

You don't have to keep these people in your life but let's just start seeing something positive about them instead of projecting all of this hatred.

All of this catty, malicious bullshit stops now. It's a reflection on you and you need to change your mindset. Be genuine about it, too. None of that pandering, condescending bullshit either. 

It's not going to be easy but it will be good for you.

If you don't want to name people specifically, and you don't have to at all because the LAST thing I want is more drama, post something anonymous on my blog like, "She has a beautiful smile," or "Her passion is admirable."

See in someone else what you see about yourself. It's all a reflection.

Are you FIERCE enough to do this?


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Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Capturing the moments!

Special thanks to our FIERCE photographer Linda Patterson of Timeless Edge Photography who once again caught the special moments of the FIERCE awards!!

Take a look!! Click here to view the gallery and purchase!

Timeless Edge Photography: FIERCE Gala 2012
All photos copyright Timeless Edge Photography


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FIERCE SPARKLE! By SherryLynn Wrenn



Can you live a life of showing people authentic kindness love everyday and do it fiercely? You bet your ass you can! I saw it with my own two eyes, felt it with my own one heart last week at the FIERCE women of the year awards last week.

The definition of SPARKLE is one that seems to be on the “softer” side I understand. It is one that people believe leaves little room for the tough stuff but the truth is, it is about bringing the GOOD in your life and leaving out nasty. Leaving out the catty. Those who try to come into your life with negative energy and bullshit gossip get deflected by your SPARKLE and they get that with a ferocity not matched by anything else!

The FIERCE Woman of the Year Awards 2012 were held at the River Cree Resort and Casino this year. It was our biggest, best, glitziest and badassiest (yes, I made that a word) event to date. There were so many women holding one another up, supporting and celebrating one another, the energy was palatable. This is when FIERCE meets SPARKLE!

Am I silly enough to believe there was no jealousy or bits of cattiness happening in quiet corners of the room? No, I’m not but what I am VERY aware of is the FIERCE community doesn't welcome it and it was bits and it happened in quiet corners.

It is not welcome and those particular people will not be there next year because they know their kind is not appreciated, celebrated or acknowledged.

This province is so blessed to have something like FIERCE Woman of the Year to look forward to; the SPARKLY realness, the fun and fabulousness.

I spoke to one woman, her name, Sabrina, who very recently lost her brother to suicide, told me “I have been hiding from the world when there is something like THIS out there. Celebrating people like ME. What am I doing?! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!”

You can give, you can take. You can be real...you can be YOU. You can be FIERCE and you can SPARKLE. Just DO.

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Saturday, October 13, 2012

Malala and Amanda: Young girls who made a difference

Picture via NYTimes video
October 11, 2012 was the International Day of the Girl Child and yet the news this week has been filled with such anger, hate, sadness and grief concerning two very different young girls.

Malala Yousafazai is a 14-year-old Pakistani girl who has been sharing her story and speaking out against the Taliban since she was 11, fighting for education for young girls, only to be shot in the head and neck for courage.

What stands out for me, aside from the fearless strength of this young girl's character, is the fact that her friends were willing to die to protect her.

When gun-toting men stopped their school wagon in Mingora last Tuesday around 12.45 p.m. asking for Malala Yousafzai, none of the three girls inside spoke. This, despite the terrorists threatening to shoot all of them if they did not identify Malala. 
Today, stirred by the braveheart, who dared to stand up to the Taliban, and her friends, Shazia and Kainat, who refused to identify her even under threat, girls across Pakistan are saying ‘I am Malala.’
 Now, a movement of "I am Malala" has spread across Pakistan, showing the continued support for this young advocate. Although her wounds were serious, she has survived, and I believe she survived for a reason. Her fight, her story, her LIFE is going to change the world. She still has work to do.


Screen shot from Amanda Todd's video

On the other side of the world, closer to home for me, Amanda Todd has killed herself after years of bullying, both online and physically. When I first heard about this story, my first thought was for the mom who was going to bed unable to kiss her daughter good night ever again. I had just put Lola to bed, kissing her and admiring her innocence.

Amanda's death hit me hard because cyber bullying is something I have seen between so-called adults, and want to educate my own kids about so they can handle anything that comes their way.

Watching Amanda's video, seeing the outpouring of condolences online, and expressing my own frustration with cyber bullying on Twitter, I have come to the conclusion that Amanda's video that she posted only a month before killing herself, was maybe it was what her story was supposed to be.

Maybe her cries for help, her video, her death are all suppose to be lessons that might never be learned had this all not received the attention it has.

People are pissed and rightfully so. This young girl is dead because she was pushed over the edge by malicious, ignorant, selfish bullies. Not once. Not twice. But over the course of three years.

I hope these stories, Amanda's and Malala's, do not fade from memory like so many do.

These young girls have made a difference. Their stories will continue to make a difference if we actually LEARN something from them.

Young people have a voice. It is up to us to listen.



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Wednesday, October 10, 2012

This is why I do what I do

Every year around this time, I question my sanity.

I barely sleep, I immerse myself in all things FIERCE neglecting my house and family, and I look like hell.

And then I get an email like this, reaffirming that FIERCE makes a difference to so many women because it connects them in a way no other networking group ever could (not the FIERCE is a networking group for the record).

Hey Tamara!
I wanted to send you something that really put a smile on my face that I just had to share with you. While I am of course thankful that you chose me to represent the FIERCE awards on BTEdmonton... apparently I am not the only one. As you know, I try my hardest at Graves Disease awareness and in return, I have met multiple people from around the world with the same diagnosis.  
Because of you, someone out there felt a little less lonely dealing with it too. 
This lady who has had Graves for 19 years and had not met a single soul with it before, wrote me after seeing me on BT yesterday.  
I wanted to share this e-mail with you to let you know about your 'good deed'. Thank you for being the reason I now have the ability to help someone else through the hopeless times I have also been through. 
Hope all is well with you!! Good luck and enjoy the FIERCE awards!!! (It will be amazing!)
Rayanne 

(Rayanne won't be at the FIERCE awards next week because she will be having surgery again but our FIERCE girls will definitely be thinking of her!!)


Hi:):)
I was diagnosed in march 1994.  I went for a routine physical.... Ended up with graves.  Never heard of it....I was 25..... And a few months away from my first wedding anniversary.  That June I had radioactive iodine.... That July I celebrated my first anniversary ..... And began to gain weight & everything began to fall further apart.  By November I was 60 lbs heavier. 
I spent years driving home from the Dr. appointments crying  thinking what the hell is happening to me.  Like u, i thought.... I am here.... Suck it up..... FIGHT! 
Well it's been many years and to be honest I am still searching for answers.
I don't know anyone else with Graves.  And now I wonder why there is no support for us.... Or maybe there is & no one told me. I feel so alone.  
I saw u on BT this week.... But only caught the bit about ur award.  I didn't know who u were or what ur story was or why u were receiving the award.   
It is thanksgiving Monday morning .... And I can't sleep.  I turn on BT & see u again on their best of show.  This time I see the whole clip and am in total awe!!!!!! 
I believe everything happens for a reason. I was meant to see this....to learn about u. I googled u and read a bit of ur blog.  I had a few realizations and knew I  needed to talk to u.  Even though I've had it 19 years ago, I still yearn to learn more, Understand it better.... As I am still dealing with the fallout and am scared for my future... For my health. 
I really hope to hear from u... U r the  only other person I've come across with graves.... Wow:). I'm sad to say I'm glad to have seen u .... As I am sad you went & are going thru so much crap.... Yet have hope we can bring each other comfort and learn together....support each other. 
With hope and fight still in me....
Francie 
I am thankful for so much today.... And now meeting u via media is one of the things I am thankful for.  Hang in there;). 



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When the world slips you a Jeffrey


You have no idea how seriously I'm thinking of installing a furry wall in my house.

It has been ONE HELLUVA ride this past month with all of the preparation for the FIERCE awards and I'm  BAFFLED by the fact that it's 9 days away!

The amount of detail that goes into this event boggles my mind even though I've been doing this for three years. I KNOW what I get myself into each year but I also know that this event matters, despite the struggle it's been to get here.

Last year at this time, I was practically begging for sponsors. This year, we are 90% sold out of our sponsorship opportunities.
The classy FIERCE committee. 

For the past two years, I've been co-ordinating the FIERCE awards by myself but last year I was lucky enough to have some seriously bad ass babes demand ask to be a part of it, and so the FIERCE committee was born.

Karissa was at the launch of the first-ever FIERCE event in March 2008 and has stood by me ever since, gently encouraging me to keep moving forward with it even when I wanted to quit. She is a true friend and I love her even if she is a bacon-eating vegetarian.

Special shout out to my sparkly flogger-wielding friend SherryLynn (who forces me to listen to her goddam Tigger impersonations is the first to be there when I rant on Facebook for help), Megan (who really needs a cheeseburger has been key in our FIERCE PR), Dawn (who brings a high level of inappropriate behaviour class to the group), and last but not least Katy (who has been instrumental in executing multiple shots of whiskey tasks and helping to build excitement for the event).

I'm not really sure what we're doing....

OK. Back to the details. I am all over the place, aren't I? I can't HELP it, there is so much to do that I've developed FIERCE ADD!!








Lee Hrbachewski
Sandra Fuentes
Rayanne Forbes












This year, we hosted a Nominee Celebration to give the nominees a chance to meet, mingle and learn about each other but also to find out more about what to expect at the gala and to present our Nominee Choice award. Congrats to our 2012 FIERCE Nominee Choice winners Rayanne Forbes, Lee Horbachewski and Sandra Fuenetes who received this GAWJUS diamond award!


Aside from adding the extra event, we've got a TONNE of A/V stuff we're adding to the gala (which takes a helluva lot of co-ordinating), nominee bio boards (that have to be edited and designed from scratch because I do NOT do cookie cutter templates), programs, vendor booths, promos to design, volunteers to co-ordinate, scripts to write, tickets to sell and send, judges to harass, nominees to harass, a jewelry line to launch, plus an assortment of other kick ass things which I won't bore you with.

Yesterday, I woke up refreshed after a FULL 8 hours sleep and decided to throw together THIS little gem!


We will have prints for sale at the gala and I am SO beyond thrilled with myself for being inspired and creative enough to do it

I'd love your feedback. And for you to buy a ticket to the FIERCE awards if you haven't got one already.

See you in a week!!!

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