Monday, April 30, 2012

Win! Win! WIN!!!! Celebrate the FIERCE Mom in your life!

We like to celebrate women and who BETTER to be celebrated than the FIERCE moms in our lives?

For the next 12 days, we will be posting the ULTIMATE Guide to Mother's Day featuring tips and ideas to celebrate Mom, profiling FIERCE Moms, featuring things to do for Mother’s Day, and spotlighting products she/you will love!


We're giving away prizes from Famoso Pizza, Key Lime Canada, The Bra Lounge, Therapeutic Body Concepts, Heritage Valley Physio Therapy, Acme Meat Market, Vogue Organics, Lux Beauty Boutique, and LASH Affair.

There are three ways to enter!! Be sure to enter daily!!

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Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Win! Win! WIN!!

My Filosophy is giving away TWO tickets to Thursday night's High Fashion Event at Lexus of Edmonton!! Simply use the form and you're entered! Earn extra entries by Tweeting! We're doing a random draw on Thursday at 12 p.m. SHARP! These tickets are worth $200! Get all the juicy deets on the event RIGHT HERE!

See you at both events!

What's a Trunk Show?

I grabbed Tannis Davidson by the shirt collar and DEMANDED she tell me! 

OK not really. I more casually posed the question to her, trying to look cool. "You know, I'm asking for a friend."

Her answer was simple: A trunk show is a designer bringing in his entire collection of pieces for a private show. Fashionistas can pre-order the line in any size or colour the designer has. 

Why did I ask?

Joeffer Caoc,
Canadian fashion designer
Well Tannis is the owner of My Filosophy, an Edmonton boutique that exclusively carries Canadian designer lines. Her designers have "Trunk Shows" twice a year at her store, and on Wednesday, April 25, Joeffer Caoc will be at the Crestwood location promoting his Fall 2012 Line which recently premiered at the Toronto Fashion Week.

Since My Filosophy is the only Edmonton store to carry Joeffer's line, it's kind of a big deal. My Filosophy doesn't bring in the entire collection to sell so this is YOUR CHANCE to order pieces in sizes and colours you can't get anywhere else in Edmonton.

Photos via George Pimental, Toronto Fashion Week

Then on Thursday...
Once you've met Joeffer on Wednesday and ordered your exclusive Fall pieces, you're going to want to attend My Filosophy's High Fashion Fundraiser on Thursday, April 26.  Tannis launched this event four years ago in support of the Stollery Children's Hospital Foundation and My Filosophy has made a commitment of raising $100,000 to help fund the Stollery Children’s Hospital Emergency Wing. This past November, with the support of event attendees and generous sponsors, My Filosophy was able to raise $25,000 in a single evening for the Stollery Children’s Hospital Foundation.

It's for the kids, dammit

Sophie Serafino
Enjoy a live & silent auction, music from the incomparable Sofie Serafino (no big deal or anything but she's a a world-class violinist who has performed for dignitaries including the Crown Prince of Dubai, Sheikh Mohammed at the Emirates Palace in Sao Paolo Brazil, the Bahraini Royal Family, Australian Ambassador of Turkey, and Crown Prince & Princess Mary & Frederik of Denmark), raffle tickets to win swag bags filled with amazing products (not the paper throwaway advertising crap you get in most swag bags), fashion show featuring Joeffer's Spring Collection, raffle prizes and more!

Global TV anchor Shane Jones
*hubba hubba!*
Global TV's Shane Jones will be MCing the event so be sure you nipple pinch him say, "Hi!"

Tickets are only $100
Get them online or at the store when you go to see Joeffer tomorrow. You love kids, right? So. This is your chance to show it! Buy a ticket, get some stuff, support the Stollery. Easy peasy!

See you at both events!

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Monday, April 23, 2012

Stronger Than Yesterday...

By Sammie Love
One year ago I wrote an article called Embracing My Scars for MOM Magazine. That article was the first time that I had ever told the general public that I was brutally raped when I was nineteen years old and how I have struggled with Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome My life has changed so much in the past year since I
wrote that article.

I have learned that I am stronger than yesterday. I am stronger when I am open to receive the love of others. I am stronger when I share what is on my heart with others instead of shutting them out. I am stronger when I rely on the word of the LORD and not my own understanding.

Embracing My Scars was just the beginning of me getting stronger. What I wrote in that article was I was a cancer and rape survivor but I hadn't really looked at so many other underlying issues that I had like: lack of trust, a hard heart and a body that was finally cracking under the weight of deep seeded depression and anxiety. My body was internally attacking me and it manifested itself through anxiety, weight gain and withdrawal.

My relationship with food and supressing feelings of inferiority after being raped made me withdraw from friends and potential friends. I always felt like I was never good enough to be their friend. I felt damaged and my heart felt broken.

I had a few special friends that I clung to this year and I opened up to them. One friend introduced me to another friend and another friend introduced me to more friends. I remember when one of them told me, "Life is too short to be unhappy! You are beautiful, intelligent and you are my sister and you don't have to settle for less than you deserve."

I've clung to those words. Those words held me when my job was downsized, when I had a car accident and my car was totaled, and when my anxiety wouldn't allow me to get back into a car. Those words gave me hope when I accepted a new job only to be let go because the license for the school hadn't been issued. I grabbed those words when I developed gallstones and kidney stones and had to have the kidney stones surgically removed. Those words helped me to build my confidence and to establish boundaries and set personal goals for happiness. Those words became my mantra when I hit rock bottom and I surrendered to GOD to help lift me back up!

As I reflect on this year I am so amazed at how GOD has worked in and through me:
  •  I have opened up with friends and family about what happened to me and I have really expanded my writing to be more reflective of the journey I am on to heal all of the fragments of my life.
  • I have mended fences with people I shut out of my life after I was raped and I explained that I was too embarrassed to tell them what I was going through because I didn't understand it myself.
  • I have written a series of articles that go into detail about my recent health scare (suspected uterine cancer) and the positive outcome.
  • I studied the bible with a group of sisters and I have joined a bible based Church that I LOVE!
  • I began to look at my relationship with food and my body image. I sought help from my doctor's and I began a "walking discovery journey" and I have recently lost 75 pounds.
  • And the final piece of the puzzle is I've decided to participate in the San Francisco Women Against Rape's 7th Annual Walk Against Rape on Saturday, April 28, 2012.
I am lighter and truly walking in the light. There are still dark days but with GOD's grace, the love of my family, my "Sista from Anotha Mista", Church and friends I have risen from tragedy to triumph and I truly know that which does not kill me will make me stronger. As I said before, I am stronger than yesterday and "I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me." (Philippians 4:13)

Be Brave, Be Well
*Sammie Love

Sammie Love is a wife, mother of three children, and an Early Childhood Educator and Professional Development Trainer for Teacher's entering the field by day. She is a sexy erotica writing super heroine unleashing passion on paper by night. She is an active blogger and has recently started writing a book about parenting children with learning differences.

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Self-reliance is a skill.

Back in the day when I was growing up in the inner city in Edmonton, I learned at an awfully young age that the only person I could truly count on was myself. I became jaded, fiercely independent, and refused to rely on anyone for anything.

In fact, the only people I ever trusted to be there for me were my grandparents so when my grandma died when I was 19, I felt very much alone and determined not to need or count on anyone to take care of me; not friends, not family, and especially not a man.

I'm an extreme person, someone who doesn't trust easily or like to feel vulnerable or emotionally in debt to someone so it took a long time and a LOT of patience on Big Daddy's part to soften the dangerously rough edges of my character (trust me, I'm less likely to lose my temper or drop the gloves with someone than I was 20 years ago). 

Maybe my self-reliance and strong sense of self is why I detest princesses and high maintenance friendships. I view weakness in any form with both empathy and disgust; empathy because 

LML: Love My Lashes

Since 2010, I have been addicted to Lash Extensions, and over the past two years I have learned a lot about what works for me and what doesn't when it comes to this cosmetic indulgence.

Ugh, this is me in all my natural beauty! No lashes. Pre-Lash Affair 
My lashes are short and naturally blonde but my eyes are my best feature so I like to make them pop with luscious lashes. After being contacted by Lash Affair in Edmonton to try their Mink Lashes, I decided to explore my Lash options and try something other than the semi lashes I was used to wearing.

Courtney, the owner of Lash Affair, was extremely professional in her application of the Mink Lashes, answering all of my questions and information about their other products and services. Lash Affair is strictly a Lash studio and currently a home-based business in southwest Edmonton but Courtney says they will be opening a retail space this summer to better serve their clients.
This is post-Lash Affair. Clearly a HUGE difference, very natural looking.
I'm used to lash extensions being full, thick and having that WOW factor but I didn't get that with the Mink Lashes. Instead, I got a naturally embellished look that went unnoticed by Big Daddy but when I pointed it out, he was far more impressed with the lashes than I thought he would be.

He liked the natural look of the lashes and preferred that I didn't look like Kim Kardashian (I actually rolled my eyes just now, writing that comparison, because we all know I am clearly her twin). He said the semis were "too much" and that the Mink lashes were much nicer, and far more classy than the semis. HA! I snicker every time I mention semis and Big Daddy in the same sentence. 

Mink Lashes after 3 Weeks

What I liked about the Mink Lashes from Lash Affair is the natural feel of the lashes and the fact that they are so light-weight that it doesn't feel like you're wearing extensions. Quite the opposite, really. I've had these lashes for almost 3 weeks now and, despite the lack of WOW factor, I am impressed with the durability of these lashes. I was unsure for the first week, thinking they were delicate and fragile but they have withstood two viewings of the Titanic 3D movie release, a stress-related full-on meltdown that had me sobbing for about three hours (it wasn't pretty), and a night of overindulging in some rum-based cocktails (falling asleep on your face is a no-no with lash extensions).

The fact that I have such short sparse lashes to begin with makes individual lashes less dramatic on me because the lashes are being attached to what I already have. Quite honestly, I prefer to have healthy lashes once they fall out instead of the naked, bald eyes I ended up with when the semis came out.

Semi-lashes. The black liner is the adhesive not eyeliner.

What you should know

When semi-lashes fall out, they take clumps of your lashes with them. It's not pretty. I ended up with practically no lashes left after I decided not to get them filled. Have you ever had gel nails for a special event then weeks later they started popping off only to expose the unhealthy nails you covered up in the first place? But actually they were worse off because when the nail popped off, your nail beds were ripped and soft from the product? Yeh. Well. It's a similar scenario with semi lashes. The application of semis is gluing the cluster of lashes on to a group of your lashes for strength. When that cluster grows out with your lashes, it takes that clump of lashes with it PLUS any additional new lashes that grow into the lash extension. That is the biggest reason you need to get the filled or taken off professionally.

Individual lash extensions fall out with individual lashes. It's much healthier for your existing lashes What I've noticed over the last 3 weeks is that although my lashes never looked as full or thick as they did with the semis, I'm not concerned that I will look lashless when these extensions completely come out.

Mink Lashes are not cheap. A full set is $225 so depending on your budget,  you may want to consider a synthetic set which is $110.

Know what is being put on your eyes. Ask your lash tech what  adhesive is being used.

Get the sealant. Lash Affair has a little retail shelf full of Lash Lover goodies including C-2 Sealer which you can use to prolong the life of your extensions.

Lash extensions last 4-6 weeks IF you take care of them. That means, no getting them wet during the first 24 hours, beware of steam (get facials before or at the end cycle of your lashes, trust me on this), and don't sleep on your face. Click here for a full list of before/after care instructions.

Oh, the other thing I loved about these Mink Lashes is that they were fixable. Let me explain. If, by some chance you passed out fell asleep on your face after one too many Pina Coladas a tough day at the office, the lash extensions weren't irreversibly damaged unlike the semis. The semi lashes were completely set and if they were accidentally smooshed or I got hugged too roughly by Lola, my 6-year-old mini me, then they became twisted and looked weird. Also, for some inexplicable reason they always ended up looking frayed, like someone had come in the middle of the night and snipped away at them with shears.

FIERCE conclusion: Lash Affair is definitely a treat. Courtney is quite proud of the fact that they are the official Octane Lash Preferred Partner for 2012 (Oiler's Cheerleaders for those in the don't know). It's definitely the most upscale Lash salon I've been to in Edmonton (I've been to 4 all together now) as far as service, atmosphere and price goes. I am looking forward to when they open their retail space because I think it will take them to the next level of customer service.

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Friday, April 20, 2012

Do it for the kids

My Filosophy is hosting their 3rd annual High Fashion Fundraiser in support of the Stollery Children's Hospital Foundation Thursday, April 26 at the Lexus of Edmonton.

Why should you go?
Because it's for the CHILDREN. And if that's not a good enough reason then throw in the fact that you get to meet one of Canada's top designers, Joeffer Caoc! He will be showcasing his Spring/Summer 2012 collection

And if Joeffer's massive trunk still isn't enough to entice you into buying a ticket in support of the Stollery, buy one for the SHOW that Sophie Serafino will be putting on. Sophie, for those in the don't know, is a

Thursday, April 19, 2012

How do you say what you do? (Give your self credit.)

Ugh. I hate this question. I hate it so much that when someone asks me what I do, I physically feel myself cringe and automatically force a fake smile and start tripping over my words.

"Oh, you know, I.. uh, well. I have this community of women and there are events and... the FIERCE awards are the signature event..."

Yeh it's always awkward.

I don't know what has happened to me, seriously. I used to BE the publisher of MOM Magazine. I used to know who I was and what I did when I had something tangible to show people. Not only have the past 2 1/2 years stolen chunks of my memory but it's damn well stolen my identity, too. Well. I gave it up, stepped away from, and let go of it; No blame game, I own all of the mistakes and choices I made.

Anyway, yeh, no print mag means no identity for me; I defined who I was by what I did. 

Now, having this mish mash of elements that make up FIERCE with nothing really tangible (yet... I need one more month before I launch what will be the flagship product for FIERCE), it has seriously spun me into one fuck of an identity crisis.

Ahem. So, Danielle, thank you for forcing me to figure this shit out at 8 a.m.

Before I go any further with my day, I will figure out an introduction on who I am, what I do and how to let people know without coming across as a rambling dumbass who lacks confidence and direction.

I am FIERCE. I have created a community where women empower, inspire and engage each other in a no-catty bullshit environment. We host events throughout the year culminating in our signature event, the FIERCE Women of the Year awards. Our blogs keep our readers connected to events in Edmonton, and introduce them to FIERCE women all over the world. Best of all, we affirm through our brand that "You Are FIERCE!"

Dammit all to hell I'm a better writer than I am a speaker. OK, well that's a start right?? RIGHT!?!? BAH! BAH! BAH! BAH!!

Enough about me, how do YOU introduce yourself??

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Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Lissa Rankin: You need to know her

Lissa Rankin, Owning Pink
I virtually met Lissa Rankin a couple of years ago on Twitter when I was spiraling out of control into darkness. She was like this flicker of awesomeness just there for me when I needed her, even though she didn't realize how much she truly inspired me at the time. I've watched her skyrocket into a realm of true greatness, empowering women wherever she goes to OWN PINK.

Among her other talents, Lissa is an actual OB/GYN, author, speaker, artist, and blogger extraordinaire who "allows" women to be comfortable in their own skin. She gives you a safe place to ask questions without judgement, has actual scientific knowledge of your lady bits, and has a wicked sense of humour with an insanely targeted insight into what women need to hear.

She posted a blog today called, "When You Veer Off Course," and I grabbed my coffee to focus on her words.

She compares life to a Concorde; you know, that super fast jet that got you from London to NYC in like 5 minutes? Apparently, and I didn't know this, that jet was too fast for pilots so it was operated  by two computers that would talk back and forth to each other. Neat, huh?

Apparently, you could hear them talking to each other. They prattled on during the entire flight, yada yada yada - “Off track!” “Correcting course!”

One guy on a tour of the Concorde asked why they were constantly talking to each other. Wasn’t the Concorde ever on course?

The tour guide said “Yes, about 1% of the time. The other 99% of the time, the jet veers off course, requiring constant autocorrection.”
When asked what time the plane would arrive in New York by the concerned man, the tour guide said, “At 10 pm, plus or minus three minutes.” 
You Can Be Off Course & Still Reach Your Destination 
In other words, it’s not about constantly sticking to the straight and narrow. You veer left. You stray right. You swerve and sway and bump up and down in the air pockets.
Nobody blames the Concorde for getting off course. There’s no shame game or guilt or Gremlins whispering evil-nothings. The Concorde’s computers aren’t screaming at each other, going “You IDIOT! You’re off course! AGAIN!”
Lissa's point is BRILLIANT! She gives you the permission you need to forgive YOURSELF for your mistakes, veering off your path in life, and shows you how to make it right again.
The more off course we get, the harder it is to face what we've done, so the more likely it is that we'll keep steering off track. 
But darling, please don't do this. Forgive yourself for what you've done right this moment. Accept this hug (((((((YOU))))))). Forgive what you've done. Now start making it right - not tomorrow, but today. 
Don’t wait until you’re 1,000 miles off course. It’s harder to find your way when you do. And if you've already lost your way, don’t wait another moment to tune in to your inner guidance system and auto-correct.
We all make mistakes, wander off of our paths and sometimes it's tougher to find your way back because that trail of breadcrumbs you left was eaten by the damn birds. But knowing that it's OK to forgive yourself, forgive your fuck-ups, and start moving to where you know you SHOULD be in life, is like some gift from the universe.

A gift from Lissa.

And now I am re-gifting this to you.

Read Lissa's blog in it's complete greatness by clicking here.

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Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Searching for this...

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6 Things I Learned in 6 Years

By Ashley Fraser-Sexmith, founder of Kula Klips
Kula Klips is celebrating it's 6th anniversary and Ashley was kind enough to share 6 entrepreneurial lessons she has learned over the past 6 years. 

1. Being an entrepreneur is tough! I didn't realize how many hours had to be put into running your own company if you want to be successful at it.

2. Don't assume you can work with the kids. I started this business way before I had children but I see many entrepreneurs start up because they think hey I can work from home and take care of my kids at the same time. WRONG! You may be able to do this some of the time but I can tell you first hand children take up a lot of time. Yes there are days I get things done with the kiddo's but I made the decision to hire childcare 2x a week and I have an assistant that helps me get it all done (no smoke and mirrors here!)

3. There's A LOT of bills that have to be paid! Sure anyone can have a great idea and start a business but the amount of bills that go into it is crazy! If you do decide to become an entrepreneur I suggest you meet with a business advisor or do your research first. There's nothing worse than not being prepared!

4. Don't sweat the small stuff. You've heard it before, I am reiterating
it, there are so many little things that can happen and if you get yourself worked up or stressed out over it all you'll never be able to handle it.

5. Make friends in the industry. It's amazing what I have learned from the fabulous people I've met over the years in the children's industry. Whether it be at a trade show or even on Twitter, its great to feel connected to others going through the same things as you.

6. Find a balance. This is so important when you have a family! Remember the kids are only little once! I have time set aside for work and time set aside for family, this logic has made me a better wife and mother because I am there when my family needs me and they understand when it's time for me to work. Don't forget about yourself to because everyone needs a little time to do things for themselves.

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Monday, April 16, 2012

FIERCE 3: Top Upcoming Events in Edmonton

Edmonton has some great events coming up in the next few weeks. Here are our FIERCE 3 picks for you to add to your To-Do List!

April 19 Chloe Angus Trunk Show at My Filosophy 
If there is one piece of clothing that every FIERCE woman needs it's a Chloe Angus wrap and you can only get them exclusively at My Filosophy in Edmonton. This Canadian designer will be at the Crestwood location of My Filosophy Thursday, April 19 from 4-8 p.m. showcasing some new pieces that you HAVE to see!
My Filosophy 9674-142 Street, Edmonton
4-8 p.m.
Meet Chloe Angus
April 26 KeyLime Athletic Wear in Sherwood Park is unveiling their new look and they are inviting YOU to their launch party! If you haven't been to KeyLime, it's a locally-owned boutique focusing on athletic and yoga wear for all sizes. Kristi Wozniak is the owner who's tireless and admirable efforts to promote other local businesses speaks volumes about her and her store. She often cross-promotes other businesses and brands, and is a fierce supporter of many local charities and programs.

What: KEYLIME has a NEW LOOK so we’re throwing a PARTY!
Who: You (& whoever you want to join in on the fun!)
When: April 26th at 7PM
Where: KEYLIME Headquarters (#12 975 Broadmoor Blvd, Sherwood Park)
Why: We already told you! We want you to join in on the fun in unveiling our new look!

Please RSVP online or in person by April 20th. All RSVPed attendees will be entered to win a $200 KEYLIME Gift Card!


May 4-5 iMedia Conference
This conference is the brainchild of Bossy Mama founder Carol McBee and it's not only the first of it's kind in Edmonton but it is sure to take your SM to the next level!

For the Social Media enthusiast, this conference will showcase some of Edmonton's best speakers on blogging, Tweeting, SEO and more! May 4 is the Networking/Mingling portion of the event where you can chat with the session presenters and meet some of Edmonton's coolest Twits! May 5 is a full day of breakout sessions, panels, keynote speakers and all the Social Media knowledge you can cram into 8 hours.  Tickets are available online. FIERCE members use the "imediapartner" discount code!

The Schedule
Friday May 4, 2012
Join us for a VIP tweet up and party at the L2 Lounge in Phase 3 of West Edmonton Mall
Ticket includes appetizers and one complimentary beverage
Saturday May 5, 2012
Fantasyland Hotel Conference Rooms
Registration/Coffee: 8:30 - 9:30am
Keynote - Darren Barefoot: 9:30 - 10:30am
Break Out Sessions: 10:30 - 12:30pm
#yeg iMedia-lite panel: 12:30 - 1:00pm
Remainder of lunch: 1:00 - 1:30pm
Keynote - Rebecca Bollwitt: 1:30 - 2:30pm
Break Out Sessions: 2:30 - 4:30pm
Closing 4:30 - 5:00pm
Ticket includes refreshments and lunch

Will you be going to any of these events?

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Twitter Cliques and Other Social Media Faux Pas

Twitter is a useful little tool but let me tell you one of my absolute pet peeves when it comes to Social Media: I hate cliquey Twits.

I do. I despise them as much as I despise cliquey bitches in real life.

Let me explain.

Social Media is all about engaging, connecting and conversations. Sure, we all are pimpin' something and have to run a business so we are selling ourselves or a service BUT that doesn't mean you have to set yourself apart from the Twitterverse by ignoring questions, comments, complaints or other Tweets.

Yes, we have all dealt with the Trolls or seen the drama on Twitter but you can still choose to engage with the people who want to converse with you. It's easy to become friends with a small group of Twits or develop online relationships that are stronger with some people that others but it doesn't mean you should blatantly ignore your audience.

On the flip side of that, Twitter IS a live chat so you may not always see the tweets that come your way (unless you're like me and have your Blackberry glued to your hand) but that doesn't mean you can't monitor your twitter stream. And yes, I get that you may be bombarded with tweets but making an effort to converse  is a lot better than completely ignoring people.

Let me give you a couple of positive examples because I see no point in posting negative examples: 
I love Perez Hilton. I know, I know, he's not for everyone but I see beyond his online persona that he has created and admire the little empire he has established. Every once in a while, I'll tweet at him and ask a a celeb-related question not really expecting a response (the guy has 4,800,000 followers and he only follows 485 people) but one day, he replied to my tweet! It was the coolest moment of my day knowing that someone with THAT many followers saw my inconsequential tweet and took a moment to reply.

This one time at bandcamp... wait, wrong story. This one time, I was lamenting about that fact that the FIERCE Christmas party was the SAME night as director Kevin Smith and his bestie Jason Mewes were going to be in town, and GUESS WHAT!?
Jay responded to my tweets!

I just about died. I'm not even kidding. OK well died is the wrong word... cancelled my event is the phrase I was looking for. Anyway, the point is, he has 185,000 followers (but only follows 264 people, tsk tsk) but he STILL took a minute to respond to me. 

Are you the non-celeb Twit who has 15,867 followers but only follows 24 people?

That annoys me too. What makes you think your message is SO important that you are only here to talk and not listen? Is your message more important than someone else's message? Are you the Dalai Lama? Uhm. No. I'm guessing you're not.

This mentality reminds me of the movie Titanic, specifically Rose's pretentious mother who asked if the lifeboats would be seated according to class. Well excuuuuuuuuuuse me, Mrs. Dewitt Bukatur, but I won't  be taking my 3rd Class ass back to Steerage. In fact, you can kiss it. Snap, snap and OH SNAP!

I understand that celebrities have millions of followers and it would be nearly impossible to manage an account by following all of your fans BUT if you're not Lady Gaga or Oprah, chances are you don't have millions of followers.

I'm not saying follow every person who follows you because clearly that would be hypocritical on my part since I don't follow everyone who follows me however I do follow people who intrigue me or engage me in conversations.

It's SOCIAL media, people. SOCIALIZE. Mingle. Chat. Make small talk. Develop relationships. ENGAGE!


If you need me I'll be drinking coffee and awaiting your comments/tweets.

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Danielle's Editing Assignment

Editing assignment: get rid of the clothes you don’t LOVE this week. And while you’re clearing them out, with each item, name and release a negative opinion about yourself. ~ Danielle LaPorte

Theoretically, Spring is here (if you're  in Alberta, you know why I'm saying theoretically; all this snow makes it feel like we should be decorating for the damn holidays) and it's a great time to clean out your closet.

Purge the negativity and improve 
your self-esteem. Win-win!

We all have that bitchy little voice in our head that reminds us of how we can't succeed, don't deserve happiness, need to lose weight, aren't pretty enough, and so much other bullshit. 

If you can detox your life starting with this one simple exercise, it will be a small step to a healthier you.

Will you try this? Let me know if you do and how you felt before, during and after.

P.S. For more Danielle awesomeness, go to her website. She is FIERCE!
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Friday, April 13, 2012

3 Titanic Life Lessons

I have this weird thing about relating movies and music to moments in my life; Stand By Me was the movie that defined by childhood, and Titanic is the movie that defined my early 20s.

When I was 21, I was wandering up another life path to a dead end. I knew what I wanted in life but I was struggling to figure out how to get there. The breaking point for me was when my boyfriend died and I had no way to make it to Toronto for his funeral. I felt so completely helpless and shattered, totally unsure of how to glue together the pieces of my life to make something of myself without support or guidance from anyone. The following year I was able to get to Toronto to meet his mom and put some closure on that chapter of my life. Upon returning from my trip, I got the phone call that I was hired to be on the sports desk at the Daily Courier in Kelowna. It was like the next chapter of my life was written for me and all I had to do was live it.

That was the year Titanic came into the theatres. I went to see the movie by myself and I remember watching Rose's struggle with her own path in life and relating to her character. At the end when Jack makes her promise to live and to never let go of that promise before he dies, I saw myself in that moment with my own boyfriend who died. I knew I wasn't completely over his death but that he would want me to go on and live a full life.

Just like in the movie, he saved me too. 

I envisioned myself as the future Rose who went on to live the life she truly wanted, never letting go of her promise and keeping the memory of Jack to herself all those years.

And just like Rose, I don't even have a picture of him.

I took so many messages from that movie that I could write blog after blog about it but I won't bore you with all the reasons I love Titanic.

I will, however, give you three life lessons to implement into your FIERCE life.

1. Be the Molly Brown of your circle

Margaret Brown was a no-bullshit babe who didn't care if the "old money" club were offended by her so-called "vulgar" ways. She played the game and played it well, never once compromising her values or changing the core of who she was.

If you find yourself in a networking situation or a social situation where the cliquey, gossipy bunch are clucking away about inconsequential bullshit, play the game but play it on your terms. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're not worthy to be a part of their "crowd" but don't feel obligated to stay, either. Remember: negative or snarky remarks are a reflection of the person spewing the venom. Do your best to maintain some level of dignity but don't be afraid to deflect it with intelligence, wit and a larger-than-life persona.

2. Don't be afraid to let go
The path that you're on doesn't mean it's the path you have to take. We make choices in our lives every day and if you keep making the same choice, expect the same results. If you want to lose weight, quit eating junk. If you want to be happier, do things that truly make you happy. If you want a better job, DO things to improve your resume. Let go of the stuff that weighs you down and keeps you from living the life you want, not the life you think you're "suppose" to live.

3. Play to the end
The nobility of Wallace Hartley and his band playing until the Titanic sank, is one of my absolute favourite stories to come out of the Titanic. They did what they loved right up until the last moments. Do that! Why do the things that make you miserable when we all know that life is too damn short! Housework doesn't count in this case, either, since we all have to do it but other than that PLAY! Have fun! Do the things that make the very essence of your soul SHINE! Do something every day to make yourself smile and do it up until the day you die.

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Thursday, April 5, 2012

Another fabulous Titanic prize!

There are only 8 tickets left for the Titanic Tea Party next week!

Don't miss out on your chance to win some AMAZING prizes including this gorgeous necklace from Stella & Dot Star Stylist Heather McLellan! Plus every guest will leave with a commemorative gift AND be entered to win the Heart of the Ocean necklace.

Tea, refreshments, Titanic trivia, followed by an IMAX screening of the 3D re-release of the hit movie.

Tickets are only $40 
When: Thursday April 12, 5:30-7:30 p.m. Movie starts at 8 p.m.
Where: On board the Santa Maria ship at West Edmonton Mall. Movie at Scotiabank Theatre

Click here to get yours before they're gone!